You can choose your friends but not your family. It's an age old saying that rings true more often than not.
When I was a young innocent pre-teen I wished and wished and wished for a "normal family". Of course I know now that there is no such thing.
At the time I wished this (somewhere in the late 1980's I guess), my ideal "normal family" was one that sat at the table every night for dinner and discussed important things (I am sure we sat at the table - but sometimes it was under duress with mum at her wits end trying to get us to eat a new meal she had made that we were uncertain of - and other times, it was just dinner on our laps in front of the TV). Brothers didn't fart in your face then walk away and laugh leaving you with a stench so bad a jumper over your face didn't even mask it. And sisters that didn't steal clothes and insist they were cooler than you. I guess I wanted a family modelled from some TV show which shoved a certain ideal down our faces.
As you get older, you are exposed to all sorts of families. There's ones that hardly see each other but are full of love when they get together, they are ones that see each other all the time but talk nothing but trash about each other, there are families that have sibling rivalry even at adult age, and then there are siblings that are so close to each other it is insane, and then there are some that for whatever reason have chosen not to speak to each other - ever again. There are ones that look happy on the outside, but are broken on the inside and there are ones that appear broken on the outside but are blissfully happy on the inside.
Your immediate family you you get no say in whether or not you become a part of. You are just born into it. Then there is your in-laws - but really, you marry the person, the family is just a bonus prize and part of the package. You can crack it lucky for good in-laws, or you can get absolute shockers. Then there's the close family friends that may as well be family. These are the ones you fondly call 'uncle' or 'aunty' when really they are just your mum or dad's best friends.
When you hold a get together with your immediate family, sometimes it's just four of you, or, sometimes the term "oh - it's just immediate family" means hiring glasses, extra seats and everyone bring a plate because there is no line to draw, there's 50 of you just for an intimate dinner. Every time.
As well as the families themselves, there are all types of people that make up families. Some do your head in, some are easy and almost all have fault in some way or another. Nobody's perfect. I guess you can never judge what is "normal". Dumb term really for any description for anything.
One thing that remains fundamentally the same for the most part. Even though they drive you completely nuts at times, your family are the only ones you can totally be yourself in front of and will be there for you no matter what.
In the end, I am glad my wish for a "normal" family never came true - as I totally love the one I have (and I refer here only to my immediate family - sorry in-laws - but I had to draw a line somewhere - otherwise the list would never end). A mum, A dad (deceased), A step mum, My gorgeous brothers, my beautiful sister, a step sister and a step brother, and all their families which includes so many nieces and nephews I have lost count.
Now let's bring this back to stationery.
In store there's a line of family inspired greeting cards for any occasion. They are a little funny, and blank on the inside for your own personal message. Watch this space for more titles (family members) in this range, what family members would you like to see added?
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