Little Miss Ten needed some stuff "from the olden days mum" for school. I struggled to think for a while, then light bulb moment.
I went to the attic storage, rummaged around, and found the box of my pre marriage life. I blew off the dust and preceded to pull out a few odd things that she could possibly use....Dad's old slide viewer (slides were used to take pictures for a projector so you could display them on a large screen to share your holiday snaps. Now there's powerpoint, or Facebook or facetime/skype - no need for the post holiday slide night), a set of nana's old encyclopaedias, an old bone china plate also from nana's place, you get the idea.
I had sort of stacked the things into "she could use this" pile, and "the these won't work" pile. I took out my wedding video (VHS - it's in the box because we can't watch it anymore. Who has a video player anymore?), my baby hairbrush, my name badge from my first job, a lot of other random bits and pieces and that signature bear from my 21st birthday. (BTW, I can hardly read some of those messages. There should possibly be a rule that the signing of those things needs to happen before alcohol consumption), my "Kix On 88" tape and a few other classics (cassingles etc, you know from the 80's, before downloading, before CD's, after records) - ready to place in the "that won't work pile".
Then I hear it - "What are these mum?"
OH. MY. LORD. She almost got in trouble right then and there. WHAT ARE TEHSE MUM??? Is she serious? Am I that old? Have I raised my kids so culturally ignorant they had no idea what a cassette tape was?
So it goes on, she took the tapes (please note the tapes...not the slide viewer or encyclopaedia set...to school for her olden days project.
I have also kept every single birthday card I ever received since I was 1 year old. They're in that box too.
Along with random family members and friends wedding and birthday invites. There's no real rule, just if I like it, or it's special (aren't they all?), then I keep it. I keep the handmade cards because people went to the effort to make them. I keep birth announcements people send if for no other reason but so I can remember my friends kids birthdays.
The box isn't that big, but gee it seems to hold a lot of stuff.
Now let's bring this back to stationery.
Sometimes when I head to clients houses, they (or their mums) pull out similar boxes, saving invites and order of services etc. ready to use as inspiration for their own (or their daughters) weddings.
After sitting down and designing, coming up with the ideal invitation suite, we talk budget. No one ever like's to, but the reality is stationery costs too. I mentioned in a previous post that stationery comes well down the wedding list, it often seems it's forgotten about on the budget too. Or maybe bride's-to-be can underestimate the costs which is easily done...How much can paper cost anyway? That's another whole post.
One way of saving is to think about the memory box above. I often explain to my clients that keepers will keep the invite. But maybe not the other parts of the suite.
Don't get me wrong, you need the suite to look whole. You need it to look beautiful and say to people hey we are here...getting married in a stylish way.
But maybe a solution is to spend more on the invite, and less on the enclosure cards and envelopes would be a good way to save money. After all, the envelope will be discarded, the reply card will come back to you (the couple), the gift suggestion card will be forgotten about once the gift has been purchased, the reception staff will clear away the menus and the place cards. I have been to weddings where I literally want to scoop up all the left over menus and place cards and save them from their ill fate, and I think as the venue staff clear away - "Do you KNOW how much time and effort and money went into creating this?"
Just a thought on saving some money on the ever increasing wedding budget.
It's the single most disheartening thing about my job. Creating stuff that I know will most likely not be kept.